As an expecting or future parent, it is natural to be excited for when your kids become old enough to try new activities. You may have a specific sport or instrument you hope they’ll come to love, or maybe you just want them to try many activities until they find what is best for them. No matter what you think your approach to new activities for your children will be, it is inevitable that sooner or later you will hear this simple phrase, “I quit.” I think we can all agree that as children try new activities they are going to like some and hate others. But what do you do when they decide that after months worth of time and money, they’d rather go home and watch spongebob?
I have a feeling Taylor and I may disagree on this one :-)… but here it goes. I can’t wait for the time when our children can try new activities. I look at the parents we know now and see how much joy they get out of watching their kids play sports, learn to play an instrument, or act in the school play and I know it will be a great part of parenting. Anyways, when considering what to do if my future child wants to quit something they’ve started, I’ve come up with a couple steps I think one should follow.
- First, find out specifically why they want to quit. It seems like the obvious thing to do, but I think too many of us (ehem…Taylor) would jump straight to the “you’re not a quitter” lecture without finding out why the child wants to quit.
- Next, I think it would be very beneficial to talk to other parents of children involved as well as the coach or instructor to see how they feel about the concerns your child has as well as get suggestions on what they think everyone can do to improve the experience for all the children.
- Strongly encourage them to stick it out until the end of the season or some other milestone. Explain the importance of finishing what you start and try and help them overcome their concerns.
If you go through all of these steps and your child still wants to quit, I feel that you should be supportive of their decision and help them find another activity that is right for them.
My children will not be quitters. If they want to quit something they’ve started, they will quickly learn that quitting is not an option- It’s that simple.
The only exceptions being if they are being physically or emotionally harmed from the activity in question,otherwise, no quitting.
After a little discussion we’ve agreed that Lindsey’s method is a little more well thought-out and rational. However, we will strongly encourage out kids not to be quitters. We believe that learning to finish things you start is one of the most important lessons a parent can teach their children- and as a result it’s probably one of the most difficult ones to teach. I guess we’ll find out someday…
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